You may want know how to win your guy back once the pizazz is gone. Using 4 simple steps, you can get your relationship back on track as you were before – even if your boyfriend is dating someone else.
The first step is to become a person he can trust. Be around him as much as possible, let him know that you're available when he needs to get something off his chest. An open mind and neutral frame of mind is the key. Letting your ex know that he can open up and share his feelings and not be judged or made to feel bad when he shares his thoughts with you. Sharing thoughts is the key to true friendship and winning back your guy.
Being open-minded and understanding is the second step, but don't put yourself in the position of being a pushover, don't let him use you for a doormat. Don't be overly eager. You definitely don't want to be used. Keep on an even keel. Let him know your opinions and feelings in matters of importance. Don't come across as being judgmental, but do let him know that you have ideas of your own, that you have emotions. Don't demand that he take your position on certain issues, that's being judgmental. The distinction between the two is very important.
Remind him of the good times – that's your third important move. Obviously, if you're trying to win him back, you had a lot of happy times together. Keeping those pleasant memories in mind will help him see why he liked you so much in the first place. One thing you absolutely do not want to do is bring up unpleasant past times, that will only throw off your plans to get him back.
Your fourth step should involve letting him know how you feel about him. Don't be too effusive, too quickly. Make sure he's definitely starting to like you again before you get all gushy. The first three steps should have brought the two of you closer, then you can successfully implement the fourth step. When he starts checking you out when you're not looking, or if he starts flirting again – you're there! Remember, he might need a little help in the beginning because he may very well feel embarrassed about ever dumping you. Winning a guy back often involves not letting him feel too foolish. Let him know, when the time is right, that you two make a great couple and it would be worth to try it again.
Employ these steps to get your guy back. Be steady in your resolve to get him back and take things slowly. Don't think your efforts are for naught, you've been planting enough positive thoughts in his head and he may come to think getting back together was his idea.
